How to Reframe Common Words and Phrases That Can Be Harmful to Others

I had this crazy idea recently that I will start writing and sharing more on my blog. It won't always be themed or professionally laid out, but it will be honest and real. Do you ever think about the true power of words? I am no expert when it comes to writing and language, but I do use common sense when I say or write certain words. There are so many times that family members, friends or acquaintances say words that really make me cringe. If you are a product of any type of childhood abuse or abuse in general, some words can be particularly triggering, and can bring up negative feelings or thoughts. Some words may seem so common and innocent when in fact they are quite harmful. I am writing this post not as an attack on anyone, but simply as a tool to maybe help others see how their use of words can be hurting others without knowing it. 

Some words and phrases to consider using an alternate for: 

• Hate. Hate is such a harsh and unnecessary word in my opinion. I heard it so much in my household growing up, but I will spare you the details. You have to really have some deep-rooted issues if you throw this word around on the daily. I see folks online commenting on a food photo and say oh I hate broccoli or whatever the food is. I see it when they complain about celebrities they don't care for. Saying you hate them is so unneeded. Maybe keep scrolling or if you are asked your opinion you can simply say you do not care for that person or they are not your cup of tea. Doesn't that sound better? Some alternate words or phrases you can use are: dislike, not my thing, not a fan, or even have a distaste for. There are definitely more things you can say, but it is ultimately your choice. 
• Kill. This word really has an effect on me personally. I have been told by family members in the past I will kill you if you do so and so, and it stayed with me my whole life. That is not something anyone should say to another person or even joke about. Saying oh he/she/they might kill or murder you if you do that is horrible. What is the purpose of even saying something like that? I believe that you can speak to someone regularly, and not know some of the details of their past that with one word, you can put them in a bad headspace. I have seen some friends online post about someone who might have taken their life, and they use the term unalive or unalived themselves. While that might be an odd word, it sure beats using kill or killed. 

Two common words that people often use with a negative connotation are "problem" and "fail." Here are alternative words that can convey a similar meaning but with a more positive or neutral tone:

Instead of "problem," you can use:

• Challenge
• Issue
• Opportunity
• Difficulty
• Obstacle

Instead of "fail," you can use:

• Learn
• Experience setback
• Encounter difficulties
• Fall short
• Not succeed 

There are so many other words I could mention in this post, but I will choose to stop here. At the end of the day, we all have choices in how we speak to others whether it is casually, professionally or online. I choose to speak in a more positive tone and prefer to spread joy and love. I know we are all wired differently, but I challenge you to take an extra moment to think before you speak or write. Thank you so much for stopping by and reading this today. It means a lot. <3

Romantic Dinner Ideas for a Cozy Valentine's Day at Home

Valentine's Day is just around the corner, and what better way to celebrate the day of love than with a romantic dinner at home? Skip the crowded restaurants and create a cozy, intimate atmosphere right in your own space. Whether you're a culinary enthusiast or a novice in the kitchen, these dinner ideas will help you impress your special someone with a delightful homemade meal.

Classic Candlelit Dinner:

Start the evening with a classic candlelit dinner featuring timeless dishes that never fail to impress. Begin with a simple yet elegant Caesar salad – crisp romaine lettuce, garlic croutons, and a creamy dressing. For the main course, try a perfectly cooked ribeye steak or salmon paired with garlic mashed potatoes and roasted asparagus. Finish the night on a sweet note with a classic chocolate fondue, complete with strawberries, marshmallows, and cubes of pound cake for dipping.

Mediterranean Flavors:

Transport your taste buds to the shores of the Mediterranean with a menu inspired by the vibrant and flavorful cuisine of the region. Begin with a mezze platter featuring hummus, tzatziki, olives, and stuffed grape leaves. For the main course, prepare a mouthwatering Mediterranean baked cod with tomatoes, olives, and capers. Serve it over a bed of couscous or orzo. Complete the meal with a refreshing lemon sorbet or baklava for a touch of sweetness. 

DIY Pizza Night:

Embrace a more casual and interactive dinner experience with a DIY pizza night. Set up a pizza-making station with various toppings, sauces, and cheeses. Allow each person to customize their pizza before baking them to perfection. Pair the pizzas with a side salad or some garlic knots. The interactive nature of this meal encourages conversation and collaboration, making it a fun and memorable Valentine's Day dinner.

Vegetarian Delight:

For those who prefer a plant-based option, consider a delightful vegetarian dinner. Start with a roasted vegetable and quinoa salad tossed in a balsamic vinaigrette. Follow it up with a creamy mushroom risotto that boasts rich flavors and a velvety texture. Roasted Brussels sprouts or grilled asparagus make excellent side dishes. Conclude the evening with a vegan chocolate avocado mousse for a guilt-free, decadent dessert.

Spicy Romance – Thai-Inspired Dinner:

Spice things up with a Thai-inspired dinner that brings bold flavors to the table. Begin with Tom Yum soup, a hot and sour broth infused with lemongrass, galangal, and chili. For the main course, serve a red curry chicken or tofu with jasmine rice. The aromatic blend of coconut milk, curry paste, and Thai herbs creates a symphony of flavors. End the evening with mango sticky rice for a sweet and tropical finale. 

This Valentine's Day, treat your loved one to a special and intimate dinner at home with these delightful ideas. Whether you opt for a classic candlelit setting, a Mediterranean feast, a DIY pizza night, a vegetarian delight, or a spicy Thai-inspired menu, the key is to create a warm and inviting atmosphere. Remember to add personal touches, such as a carefully selected playlist, beautiful table settings, and, most importantly, your undivided attention. Celebrate love with a homemade meal that reflects your thoughtfulness and effort in making the day memorable for both of you.

The Power of Mindset: Why Your Mental Attitude Matters and Ways to Improve Your Emotional Health

In today's fast-paced world, where stress and challenges are a part of everyday life, it is crucial to prioritize our emotional well-being. Our mindset plays a significant role in shaping our thoughts, emotions, and actions. Developing a positive and resilient mindset can transform the way we perceive and respond to life's ups and downs. In this blog post, we will delve into the importance of mindset and explore effective strategies to enhance your emotional health. 

Understanding the Power of Mindset:

Our mindset refers to the collection of thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes that shape our outlook on life. It influences our behavior, decisions, and overall mental well-being. A growth mindset, characterized by a belief in personal development and the ability to overcome challenges, can significantly impact our emotional health. By adopting a growth mindset, we can cultivate resilience, increase our motivation, and embrace a more positive approach to life's hurdles.

Cultivating Self-Awareness:

Improving emotional health starts with developing self-awareness. Take time to reflect on your thoughts and emotions. Recognize patterns of negativity, self-doubt, or limiting beliefs that may be hindering your progress. Mindfulness practices such as meditation, journaling, or deep breathing exercises can help you become more attuned to your emotions, allowing you to respond rather than react to challenging situations. 

Challenging Negative Thoughts:

Negative thoughts can weigh heavily on our emotional well-being. It is essential to challenge and reframe them into more positive and realistic perspectives. Whenever you catch yourself engaging in negative self-talk or catastrophizing, consciously replace those thoughts with affirmations or counterarguments. Surround yourself with positive influences, uplifting literature, and supportive individuals who can help you maintain a positive mindset.

Practicing Gratitude:

Gratitude is a powerful tool for improving emotional health. Regularly expressing gratitude for the things, people, and experiences in your life can shift your focus from negativity to appreciation. Keep a gratitude journal and jot down three things you are grateful for each day. This practice can cultivate a positive mindset, increase resilience, and improve overall well-being.

Building Resilience:

Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity. Developing resilience can help you navigate life's challenges with greater ease. To build resilience, focus on developing healthy coping mechanisms. Engage in activities that bring you joy and help you recharge. Surround yourself with a supportive network of friends and family. Seek professional help if needed. Remember that setbacks are a part of life, but with a resilient mindset, you can view them as opportunities for growth. 

Prioritizing Self-Care:

Emotional health is closely tied to self-care. Make self-care a priority in your life by engaging in activities that promote relaxation, rejuvenation, and self-reflection. Exercise regularly, eat nutritious meals, get sufficient sleep, and engage in hobbies that bring you joy. Taking care of your physical and mental well-being will significantly impact your overall emotional health.

Your mindset matters. By developing a positive and resilient mindset, you can improve your emotional health, enhance your well-being, and navigate life's challenges with greater ease. Remember that cultivating a growth mindset takes time and practice, but the benefits are well worth the effort. Prioritize self-awareness, challenge negative thoughts, practice gratitude, build resilience, and prioritize self-care. By incorporating these strategies into your life, you can embark on a journey towards emotional well-being and live a more fulfilling and joyful life.

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Hallmark Movies & Mysteries Premiere of "Miracle in Bethlehem, PA" on Thursday, December 21st at 8pm/7c! #MiraclesofChristmas

Today's conversation is sponsored by Hallmark Movies & Mysteries. 

It's so hard to believe that the holiday season is here and almost over, just that quick! We are all packing in the festivities while we can by attending parties, taking drives to see the lights, eating delicous treats, and partaking in a few traditional events we do each year. Decemember is definitely the most hectic yet the most magical month of the year. My family has been taking a vacation every Christmas to Myrtle Beach for close to a decade now. It is a time we all look forward to to wind down from the holiday hustle and bustle, and reconnect as a family. 

This photo is from 6 years ago, and we have it on a canvas on our family gallery wall. It serves as a reminder of how much magic happens at the beach when we go each Christmas. Outside of our family trip, one of my favorite things to do every year gearing up to Christmas is to watch movies from  Hallmark Movies & Mysteries Miracles of Christmas. There are 9 new original movies premiering throughout #MiraclesOfChristmas and you can view the line-up here. 

We hope will join us and tune-in to Hallmark Movie Movies & Mysteries #MiraclesOfChristmas original premiere Miracle In Bethlehem,PA on Thursday, December 21st at 8pm/7c! I will be live-tweeting during the movie and would love for you all to watch and tweet along. 

You can connect with me on Twitter/X and use the hashtag #MiracleInBethlehemPA for the chance to win a $25 digital Visa gift card. 

Movie Info: 

Stars:  Laura Vandervoort and Benjamin Ayres

Successful and fiercely independent, Mary Ann Brubeck adopts a baby girl to raise on her own just before Christmas. Due to weather, she and the baby get stuck in Bethlehem, PA for the holidays. When there is no room at the inn, her only option is to stay with the innkeeper’s brother Joe, a quintessential bachelor who lives in a house that he treats like a barn. As Mary Ann learns the value of community by spending time with Joe’s family and participating in the local church’s Christmas events, Joe starts getting his act together with new motivation…and the two begin to see each other in a new light.

You can check out all 9 original holiday movies all season long on Hallmark Movies & Mysteries Miracles of Christmas!  https://www.hallmarkmoviesandmysteries.com/miracles-of-christmas 

You can repost this tweet to be entered to win the $25 gift card (U.S. Residents only). We hope to see you on Thursday evening where we will annouce the winner at the end of the live-tweet session.