Oct 12, 2010

I don't and NEVER will co-sleep

*Before anyone gets worked up just know that I don't judge people who sleep with their kids in their bed (well maybe just a little *smiles*)

Last night William decided it would be yet another going to bed late night for him. He was laying in between Dwayne and I in our bed. Every time Dwayne tried to even touch my face William would throw his arm up like "Don't touch my mommy. My mommy!" We had the TV on and every time a commercial would come on this little dude would hop up and make a comment. Let's not even get started on the kicks and punches. I think my side still aches from that excruciating 45 minutes.

A lot of people like the whole "bonding" experience with the co-sleeping thing. Screw all that! Can't you bond in the daylight hours? Seriously. I just don't understand how a couple sleeps with their kid and can carry on with "adult" time. I don't get it.

If you are one of those green, baby wearing, attachment parenting kind of parents please don't send me your hate mail. I'm just sayin'!

Shelly, Mom Files


  1. I'm right there with you on this one.

    For the 9 1/2 years I've been a mommy, I can count on one hand how many times the kiddos have slept with me. And I'm using the word sleep loosely. I was so conscious of them the whole night (and making sure that I didn't roll over on them) that I couldn't sleep at all. Not to mention all of the kicks and head-butts I received during the night.

    Nope, I've decided that they have their own rooms for a reason - and I'm thankful for it!

  2. LOL ~ My co-sleeping only extends to having a bassinet beside our bed. Not a fan of having a baby (and definitely not a toddler!) in the bed with me. In addition to all the things you've described, Chase's diaper tends to get so heavy (and sometimes leaky) at night, since I no longer change it multiple times throughout the night. So in addition to bruises on my body, we'd have rank sheets as well.

    To each her/his own though.

  3. LOL, that's funny *laying in bed w/both my girls*

    I'm not going to pretend I'm supermom and bash you, because I think what you have to say is valid. I understand your feelings, even though I co-sleep. It's not just "your" truth. Other moms are thinking the same thing.

    That's the awesome thing about parenting. We each get to decide what is right and what works for us. Thanks for sharing!

  4. I'm on board. My little guys is 21 months and have NEVER slept in the bed with us (with the exception of hotel bed this past July when he and I were out of town). I'm not a fan of co-sleeping. I made a real effort to make sure that he loved HIS room and HIS crib. I have a nephew who is 6 and still sleeps with his parents. They get the super side eye from me on that issue. o.0/

  5. I agree with you! Hubby and I love our adult time alone. We even don't allow our kids in our room. We don't want them to develop that habit.

  6. I didn't do that. SMH. You don't get any sleep and you wake up with aches and pains. Plus, the child doesn't learn to sleep alone.

  7. I don't co-sleep either. Never have never will. But if I WAS a co-sleeping mom I think I would send a "not" so friendly comment to this post. Why all the defensiveness toward those that do? Why are moms so quick to judge what other's do? You do what works for you and leave it at that.

    No need to be judgmental: "A lot of people like the whole "bonding" experience with the co-sleeping thing. Screw all that! Can't you bond in the daylight hours? Seriously."

    DO you feel like less of a good mother because of it? If not, it's hard to tell by your snarky-ness toward what you call "green, baby wearing, attachment parenting kind of parents". Women can be their own greatest enemies with there jealousies and lack of support AND mommy bloggers seem to be the greatest hypocrites.

  8. Thanks everyone for your comments! :)

    These were strictly MY views and were not meant to offend anyone :)

  9. Far from green, but yet a baby wearing and huge fan of responsive parenting, I've gotta agree with the anonymous poster. How can you or anyone else decide what co-sleeping means for other people? For all those who say it's uncomfortable, have you ever considered that for exclusively breastfeeding mothers, co-sleeping is the only way to get a decent amount of quality sleep since nursing occurs roughly every 2 hours or less? Or that it has nothing to do with bonding, so much as nurturing the child and being responsive to their needs, putting you and your husband's "adult time" desires on the back burner for a while? Or that "adult time" as you put it, isn't happening while the child is in the bed, but at other times outside of bed time? Or that co-sleeping parents don't ALWAYS have the child in the bed with them the entire night? Did you know studies have shown that co-sleeping babies have higher self-esteem and less anxiety as they get older? Or that they are less likely to die of SIDS than kids who are put in a crib? Or how about the fact that to the majority of the rest of the world co-sleeping is normal?

    Co-sleeping parents are willing to inconvenience themselves in order to ensure that they do what's best for their child. They are much more alert to the needs of their child than parents who put the child in a crib. And if you're not one of those mothers, then you're not going to understand.

    Sure it's your blog and you can say and think whatever you want, but I would hope that since this is a site geared towards mothers that you would not let your disdain for mothers who don't throw their kids in a crib, or who don't use disposable diapers or would never let their child's lips touch baby formula shine through as brightly as it does.


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